Still Hurt By Past Valentine’s Day Disappointments?
Ever felt let down on past Valentine's Days, left feeling like an afterthought? We get it, and here's the thing - change is possible, for both you and your partner. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, let's talk about managing expectations and responses during holidays, especially when disappointment strikes. This applies to anyone feeling a bit frustrated during special occasions. If past holidays have left you unsure how to handle resentment, here's advice to keep bitterness at bay.
Holidays often bring high expectations and traditions, and when things don't go as planned, it can lead to disappointment. This can be especially true for those feeling unappreciated or unsupported by their partners. But dwelling on the negative creates a cycle of negativity. Instead, let's explore shaping techniques to encourage positive behaviors.
Step 1: Focus on the positive. Acknowledge and appreciate the good things daily. Small gestures deserve recognition.
Step 2: Be specific with your requests. Clearly communicate your needs and desires, especially if you want a change from past holidays.
Step 3: Use positive reinforcement. Reward positive behaviors with compliments, hugs, or small gifts. Positivity strengthens desired actions.
Step 4: Avoid negativity. Criticism can backfire, so express feelings and needs using "I" statements and gentle start-ups. “I would really appreciate it if we could plan this Valentine’s Day together”
Step 5: Be patient and consistent. Change takes time, and small improvements are steps in the right direction.
By creating a culture of appreciation, you can foster a more affectionate and supportive relationship. Talk to your partner about your expectations positively, focusing on feelings and needs. Be patient and understanding, and celebrate small improvements.
The Challenge:
This Valentine’s Day, take the challenge: try these shaping techniques to improve your relationship. Work together, have conversations, and ensure a fun, joyful, and memorable holiday season.
Discover the keys to a thriving relationship by watching our latest video, where our director and Gottman-certified therapist, Stephanie Cook, delves into the details of the five steps to a happier connection.
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