Ever feel frustrated when you're trying to have a conversation with someone who keeps checking their phone? Ever catch yourself checking your phone while talking to another person, or while "multi-tasking", and think, "why am I doing this"?
If you're like me, you've been both people. Don't be too hard on yourself. We are all creatures of habit. But It's probably time to put the phone down (at least for a little while).
Downtime is really important to our emotional health, especially for rejuvenation, creativity, and healthy relationships. But intentionally creating downtime can be difficult when you've created a hard-wired, immediately rewarding habit.
Believe me, I know. I really love technology and find it difficult to unplug. Even so, I highly recommend taking some time to completely disconnect.
If you're becoming too attached your phone, tablet, or computer, try taking a few of my suggestions:
- Think about ways you can create more tech-free space in your life
- Start small, with minor changes every day
- Try abstaining from any technology certain times of the day, such as dinner
- Go outside on a walk without your phone or music
The next time you want to unplug, try this. Say you're going somewhere alone, with your family or friends--leave your phone at home, turn it off, or just lock it up in your car's glove compartment. This way, you have no "temptations" to re-engage with a device, and disengage from the moment.
Need help? Want some guidance on this topic or any other issues? If you would like to get help for yourself or your relationship, please consider individual or couples therapy. Call me at 678-999-2290 or email me at Stephanie@CounselingATL.com to schedule an appointment.
ABOUT: Stephanie Cook, LCSW, provides in-person and online counseling services to adults, teens, couples, and families; she specializes in working with young adults and couples on improving themselves and their relationships. Stephanie owns a small private practice, Counseling ATL, LLC, located in Decatur, an intown-suburb of Atlanta, GA, near Emory University. Her blog is dedicated to helping people improve their lives and relationships.