Best Practices for Couples Who Have Experienced a Trauma
Hello again, I am Stephanie Cook, Executive Director at Couples Counseling ATL. Today, I’d like to talk to you about trauma and how it can affect couples. I sat with a couple I worked with in the past, their world had been shattered by a sudden accident. Their grief was raw, and their bond was strained. As they shared their story, a familiar question surfaced: Will we survive this?
Many couples face this question when navigating significant trauma. Life’s unexpected storms—whether a devastating loss, a natural disaster, or a life-altering accident—test the strongest of bonds. But surviving these storms is not only possible; it can also lead to a deeper, more resilient connection.
Studies from the Gottman Institute show that 75% of couples feel less happy in their relationship in the year after a traumatic event. But this doesn’t mean your relationship is over. With the right tools and support, you can get through it together. At Couples Counseling ATL, we have seen couples come out stronger after working through tough times together.
Everyone grieves differently. There is no right or wrong way to deal with pain. It’s important to respect how your partner feels. Avoid judging, be kind, and make a safe space where you both can share your feelings.When bad things happen, talking to each other becomes very important. It might be hard, but being open and honest can help you understand each other better. Share your fears, worries, and even anger. Remember, you’re not alone.
A study in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy found that couples therapy helps improve relationships and communication skills in couples facing trauma. A therapist can give you a safe place to talk about your feelings, solve conflicts, and rebuild trust.
Support doesn’t have to come only from therapy. Lean on friends, family, and your community. Do things that make you happy, like spending time in nature, practicing mindfulness, praying, meditating, or doing something creative. Some of these activities you can do together, and some you can do alone.
Going through hard times can actually make your relationship stronger. Imagine looking back and thinking, "We made it through the worst times and supported each other." By being kind, listening, and supporting each other, you can turn pain into strength and build a love that lasts.
If you’re having trouble dealing with trauma, we’re here to help. You don’t have to face these problems alone. With the right support, you and your partner can come out stronger and more connected than ever. Trauma can be treated, whether you are alone or together, and you can get through this.
